Mothers are the foundation for their children's domestic success or failure - for generations to come!
This is not sexist - this is statistical. Research shows that mothers, rather than fathers, have a disproportionate impact on their children's future success in the home. It seems that children take their cues on how to act at home from their mothers.
Moms impact generations with their behavior and attitude. Hard work to do it right? Absolutely! Worth it? Are you kidding? Who doesn't want kids with strong marriages and their own successful children!!
The stats prove it!
Physically or emotionally absent fathers have kids with much higher rates of pregnancy, drug use, school drop out and the need for counseling.
Only 2% of children whose fathers do not attend church end up attending church themselves. Only 2%!!
94% of fathers who follow Christ lead their wives and children to Christ.
Though our society would like to say that the impact of fathers and mothers is the same, the statistics prove that the impact of fathers on their children for good or bad is disproportionately greater.
Men - you make a huge difference. But you must choose the type of difference you make!
We can get caught up with work, ministry, other people, other people's children and forget to foster that close relationship with our own.
But here's the truth: if you lose the relationship with your own children then your credibility in life, especially in ministry, is shot.
What do we all want? We want our children to follow the Lord and impact others for Christ. But for that to happen, we must be there for them. They must trust and confide in us as they navigate the waters of growing up and trying to understand what it is to have faith in Christ.
So here are three things you DON'T want to do when you talk with them.
Challenge Your Assumptions!
Why do you do what you do? Why do you believe what you believe?
Most of your actions and your beliefs are based on assumptions that you have held for years. Are those assumptions blessing you and those you serve?
Take the next few days and carefully go through the different areas of your life - marriage, children, family, church, beliefs, business - and ask yourself how you think things are going. When you have thought it through, ask someone in each arena how they think you are doing - some one who will tell you the truth.
If all is well, then no problem. However, if your wife tells you your marriage could be better, or your kids are hesitant to talk, or your church isn't growing and lives aren't changing, then ask yourself, "What assumptions do I have that are not working?"
You may have gotten those assumptions from your parents, a book, something you decided years ago, or from someone else's example, but if they are not...